Rosanne & Fabian
Miami, Florida
"Fabian and I met in May 2007 and married in June 2011. We have two beautiful girls. My husband is from Venezuela, has five siblings and his parents have been together for over 50 years. I was born and raised in Puerto Rico, have two sisters and my parents divorced when I was around 13 years old. That's when all my internal issues started. Before our separation in 2018, I was self-centered, selfish and tough. I deserved everything. As an example, we both worked but Fabian paid for everything. I used my salary for shopping and time for me and my friends. My husband tried everything from getting couples counseling to talking to me but I was always too busy. After constant fighting, in September 2018, he told me, "Rosanne, I can't do this anymore. For the girls' sake, I'm leaving in two weeks." I told him, "You want to leave the house? Then do not wait two weeks; go NOW!" I threw all his clothes outside. We have no family here, so he slept in his car and then moved to a friend's house for five months. I begged him to return home during our first month of separation but he was done. One afternoon, I posted something on WhatsApp. A friend that I met through my husband wrote to me. Mind you, I hadn't spoken to this girl in years. I told her I was separated and she asked if she could visit me. To make the story short, she talked to me about God and lent me a book called "El Poder De La Esposa Que Ora" (The Power of a Praying Wife). I was reluctant and blamed God, not myself, for the separation. She invited me to her church but I told her no since I was "Catholic, not Christian." Two weeks later, my husband came to pick up the girls on a Sunday morning. When I saw the empty house that morning, I threw myself down on my knees, called my friend and went to church. I started attending church every Sunday and worship night every Friday, reading the bible daily and attending women's and prayer groups. I started to trust that God would change me first and then He would open my husband's eyes. I recognized God talking to me for the first time as I read Isaiah 55. I was diagnosed with breast cancer in 2021; God had His hand on me. I had a double mastectomy but did not need to undergo chemo or radiation. I trusted God to meet all my needs and did not struggle financially. I did not date men because I respected my vows and God was still my comforter. People, including family, asked why I was still waiting while Fabian was happy and dating. I surrounded myself with people who believed in my stand. I filed for divorce in November 2020, after 25 months separated. We both signed the papers but my attorney never filed. She went on a trip and her assistant forgot. That was God working again! In December 2021, I went to spend New Year's Eve with my two daughters in Chicago. I was happy and feeling peaceful. I gave God my marriage, not thinking about what would happen. I just knew God had my back. In February 2022, out of nowhere, Fabian came to talk and told me he could see changes in me and wanted to try again and start from scratch. We started dating. He moved back home in June 2022 and we are the happiest that we have ever been. Trust God, not your circumstances! The wait is difficult, I am not going to lie. While you wait, pray, talk to God, worship and live one day at a time. I waited and stood for three years and four months. God did it for me and He will do it for you. God bless!"
