Lynn & K.
Knoxville, Tennessee
"I'm Lynn and my husband is K. After 20 years of marriage and four children together, I felt confident that we were committed only to one another. March 2018 rocked my world. I knew one day when I saw my husband making small talk with a coworker that they were having an affair. I questioned, and he denied it. I checked phone records and found 20 and 30-minute phone calls to her. He insisted it was all work-related. He made me feel crazy, and I eventually apologized for even suspecting. For months, I couldn't shake that feeling. I searched and stayed on top of his location. Things seemed legit, and I dropped it, knowing deep inside that an affair had happened. During this time, I dedicated my life to prayer, fervently praying for the healing of my heart and the reveal of anything I may need to know. In July, my husband told me he wanted a divorce. He sent me a message from another state where he was working I called on every prayer warrior I knew to pray for us. A week later, when he got home, he changed his mind (I credit it all to God!). But we continued down a path of destruction over the next few years. I begged him for the truth, but he still denied it happened. In July of 2020, I was diagnosed with breast cancer. My husband was nothing short of amazing. Even though it was the peak of the Covid-19 pandemic, he took me to doctor visits and chemotherapy treatments and was very helpful. We were closer than we had ever been, and I was trusting him again. I even started believing that I was wrong about the other woman. I even apologized to her at one point. Talk about a humbling experience. In December 2020, my husband and I decided to take a trip. I needed his hotel login information, and once I logged in, suspicion got the best of me. I checked the months that were in question, and sure enough, he had been in cities he wasn't supposed to have been. Once again, I asked him about another woman. This time, he came clean, and he confessed his affair. In my mind, the exact time frame he told me didn't matter. It happened and is part of our history and partly what made us work on our marriage. I can say with 100% certainty that God healed our marriage! In 2020, he gave my husband a job opportunity where he would never have to work with her again. My husband had been at his job for 26 years, so completely changing careers took God's intervention. He dedicated his life to the Lord and continues to work on healing our marriage and making it great. Just this week, he surprised me in a way I never expected for my birthday. I can say that we are both closer to the Lord, and both of us are more dedicated to our marriage than we have ever been. I encourage you to find your one person to talk to, and don't talk to anyone else about the affair. Try to remember that the person you talk with may still love your husband, even though you may be feeling less than love for him. Remember the commitment that you have made to one another, and you are bound by God together. As hard as it is, don't take the affair or hurtful words personally. This is certainly a spiritual attack. Affairs are a way Satan wants to destroy the sanctity of marriage. Your husband will soon regret his words and, often, may not remember even saying them. No, I am not naive - I know my husband, and he honestly said things he doesn't remember! He was so caught up in sin that his senses were not working as they should. Try not to compare the marriage you had before major difficulties to what it's like after your restoration. Your relationship will be different, and it will be better! I'm sorry that we had to meet this way — through our painful shared marriage experiences - I wish no one knew what this heartache feels like. You will find support in the Standing Supernaturally for Marriage Restoration group if you are willing to accept it. Nothing is impossible with God. NOTHING!" Lynn mentioned finding support in the Standing Supernaturally community. There is no greater way to get connected than by joining the Standing Supernaturally Monthly Membership Program. Sign up for a FREE trial at www.StandingSupernaturally.com/Membership
