Jamee Lynn & Quincy
Portland, Oregon
"I'm Jamee Lynn, and my husband is Quincy. My marriage was an absolute tragedy for over a decade. I had made it to the point where I wondered what life might be like if I finally gave up. Last June, I believe the Lord set a path for me to separate from Quincy. I didn't want to divorce my husband; I just wanted him to see how damaging both of our behaviors were and to work with me to reconcile and restore our marriage. We both love the Lord, but our own issues needed healing. We needed the mighty work of Jesus to transform our lives radically. My husband seemed blind to the deeply-rooted issues plaguing our lives. Our marriage went through all kinds of trauma: domestic violence, adultery, substance abuse, mental, emotional and verbal abuse, regular police visits, in-law drama, co-parenting drama, financial strain, you name it we faced it. And we handled all of it badly. And these things were things we both did. We were both awful spouses. So when the Lord finally said now is the time, I left. I left with the intention of getting a rest from the daily war of our life, to get healing, deliverance, and reconnect with Jesus to keep fighting. After over a decade of fighting, childbearing, depression, and more, I was exhausted. I physically couldn't even cope. I was losing my mind. We got to our new location. I settled in for the long war and realized I really longed for people who were actually standing for their marriage, too. It was discouraging to know our culture and society basically teach us to throw away our marriage and get a new one. Divorce is easier, better, more peaceful and more celebrated. People would've literally congratulated me if I had divorced him but were at times disgusted and confused as to why I would fight for the relationship. I knew it was possible by the power of the Holy Spirit. For nine months, I prayed, fasted, read countless books, studied and yielded to everything the Lord said. It was so hard. My husband didn't believe anything could be restored. He was so mean and doubtful. Everything got way worse for a time. Nevertheless, Jesus said He is faithful to finish the work He started and I knew one day we would see the victory. Finally after twelve years of marriage, in March 2023, Quincy was enlightened to EVERYTHING. He apologized and laid his whole heart out on the table. That was the beginning of our restoration. We rebuilt our relationship for the next three months, still from different states. We lamented over wanting a wedding as we planned our family relocation and getting back under one roof together. When we married in 2011, we had said vows in our pastor's office, sitting at a table with a few witnesses. Two days before our 12th anniversary, we RENEWED our vows before our friends and family, FULLY restored and reconciled. Jesus has transformed our hearts and minds from the inside out. We have eight children who have witnessed firsthand that God takes us from chaos and destruction to life and victory. Our children have seen the HAND OF GOD work right before their eyes. Where we once hated each other, so filled with bitterness, anger, pride and resentment, Jesus healed us. We now love, cherish and eagerly seek to serve one another in love. My husband went from being a tragic source of pain in my life to my absolute favorite person and I am honored to be called his wife. I joined the Standing Supernaturally Facebook group because I wanted to know I wasn't the only one out here going against the norm and standing supernaturally for my marriage. But now, I'm here to say, praise God! We have been restored! I want to give someone else encouragement to stay the course. Keep pressing in. Don't give up hope! It took twelve years for us. Our marriage was bad from the day we married and every day after that until five months ago. Every moment has been worth the fight! I was dead inside for so long and now I am filled with life and overwhelmed with absolute JOY!" Jamee Lynn mentioned the Standing Supernaturally for Marriage Restoration Facebook page. For more info about this and other groups of Standing Supernaturally, visit www.StandingSupernaturally.com/Community
